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Chap Bettis

Is Gentle Parenting Biblical? An Open Letter from a Dad to Dads

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Uncategorized

This is an open letter to dads who are in the midst of parenting. Your job as leader and shepherd, provider and protector of your family is incredibly important. In Ephesians 6:4, God addresses us as fathers. Fathers, do not exasperate your children but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.  It is true that moms are some of the most important and hardest working disciple-makers the church has. They bring unique strengths we as men don’t have. But even as Scripture calls women to be the primary heart-makers of our children, we as men are called to lead our households well…

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Seven Things Good Dads Say

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Years ago, I stumbled across an article by Tim Challies entitled What Good Dads Say. The title caused me to think about my own list.  As we approach Father’s Day we need to be reminded that, as dads, our words are powerful. One of my sons has said to me on occasion, “Dad, I can still hear your voice (in my head).” What an incredible privilege and responsibility! So what do good dads say? Here are seven of my suggested phrases for younger children. 1. “I love Jesus Christ and I hope you will too. That would make me the happiest…

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Financial Instructions from the Master – Chap Bettis

By Christian Living, Marriage
On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent Podcast, we share a sermon on Financial Instructions from The Master, where I share biblical teaching and practical suggestions on personal finance and generosity. At the end of the sermon, we’ll reflecting on the importance of understanding that everything we have is a blessing from God, and our role is to be good stewards of these resources. So, join us as we navigate the complex world of finance through a biblical lens.   Topics Covered In This Week’s Podcast 08:55 God owns everything. You and I are just managers. 14:04 God expects you...
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Our Hearts are Still Connected

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Though we cannot nor should control our children, we do want to be intentional in our parenting. One of our goals is to raise children who are biblically wise and not foolish. Wisdom is skilled living in God’s world. And wisdom starts with fearing the Lord (Prov. 9:10). With the individualism of the West and the nature of the human heart, it is easy for adult children to say a “Thank you!” and then launch out, without thinking much about their parents. I certainly did that as a young person. But though they may have left our house they have not left…

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Greeting Each Other: The Most Basic Expression of Love

By Christian Living, Church Life

Our children are watching how we interact at church. Over the years, I have noticed that some Christians have not mastered the most basic form of love: greeting one another. The simple act of greeting is seen by some as optional. But Christians are commanded in God’s word by precept and example to express love to one another in the most basic of ways. A quick survey of the New Testament reveals that we are commanded by God to:  Besides these individual commands to the believers, Paul “wastes” a whole chapter of the Bible (Romans 16) greeting different ones by name. In…

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Your Spouse is Not Your Rock

By Marriage, Uncategorized

If you have ever watched any construction you know that a large amount of time is spent establishing a part of the building or house you will not see. At first glance, it seems that builders spend a disproportionate amount of time digging the foundation of the building. But that unseen construction is vital for the structure to stand during the coming stresses. Without it, the building will fall (Matthew 7:47). The doctrine of God’s unchangeableness (or as theologians call it – immuntability) is similar. At first glance it doesn’t seem as interesting as other attributes like God’s love, omniscience, or…

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Ideas, Truth, and Falsehoods

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Maybe after reading this, you will think it was written by Captain Obvious. But for some reason, as I have been meditating on these thoughts, I am seeing the world a little differently. And I wonder if it will help you as you speak with your teen or young adult. IdeasWe swim in an ocean of ideas. Our children also swim in an ocean of ideas. Some ideas are presented through teaching and conversation. Others come through the arts and media. For this method we might think of TV, documentaries, advertisements, movies, or  music. Ideas are everywhere! As our children get older, they are exposed…

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Family Pastor, Your Home is Your Focus Group

By Church Life, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

As a side benefit of my conference ministry, I am privileged to meet a number of godly young pastors. Some have the role of family pastor and some are senior pastors with a heart for family discipleship. The very reason they have me in to speak is because they want to equip the parents in their church to pass the gospel to the next generation.  They also know the church is important in this calling. And so they will launch initiatives to encourage and help parents. But too often those initiatives have less success than they wanted. What seemed like a…

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Forgiveness in the Family

By Family Discipleship, Marriage, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

A young man was telling me about his upbringing. He enjoys his grown siblings but his parents are a challenge. When I asked the reason, he replied that there had been so many offenses between the two of them that they now just coexist as roommates. More and more I am convinced that a primary ingredient in a marriage, in a family, and in a church is forgiveness. Love and forgiveness are the gospel-glue that hold relationships together. Living in a gospel-filled home does not mean we are perfect. It does mean we forgive much based on how much we…

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Talking Points for Biblical Sexuality

By Discerning Culture, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

In my Disciple-Making Parent conference, I take one hour to talk about special issues affecting preteens and teens. One area that parents need to be able to articulate is the area of sexuality. In our sex-saturated world, our kids are being discipled by the world with nonChristian ideas. We need to be clear on what the Bible has to say. Below are a few talking points that I think need to be clear in our mind.  1. Sex is God’s idea. It is good. It is meant to be a sign and seal of a man and woman’s covenant relationship. 2. Sin entered the…

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