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Chap Bettis

Greeting Each Other: The Most Basic Expression of Love

By Christian Living, Church Life

Our children are watching how we interact at church. Over the years, I have noticed that some Christians have not mastered the most basic form of love: greeting one another. The simple act of greeting is seen by some as optional. But Christians are commanded in God’s word by precept and example to express love to one another in the most basic of ways. A quick survey of the New Testament reveals that we are commanded by God to:  Besides these individual commands to the believers, Paul “wastes” a whole chapter of the Bible (Romans 16) greeting different ones by name. In…

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Your Spouse is Not Your Rock

By Marriage, Uncategorized

If you have ever watched any construction you know that a large amount of time is spent establishing a part of the building or house you will not see. At first glance, it seems that builders spend a disproportionate amount of time digging the foundation of the building. But that unseen construction is vital for the structure to stand during the coming stresses. Without it, the building will fall (Matthew 7:47). The doctrine of God’s unchangeableness (or as theologians call it – immuntability) is similar. At first glance it doesn’t seem as interesting as other attributes like God’s love, omniscience, or…

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Ideas, Truth, and Falsehoods

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Maybe after reading this, you will think it was written by Captain Obvious. But for some reason, as I have been meditating on these thoughts, I am seeing the world a little differently. And I wonder if it will help you as you speak with your teen or young adult. IdeasWe swim in an ocean of ideas. Our children also swim in an ocean of ideas. Some ideas are presented through teaching and conversation. Others come through the arts and media. For this method we might think of TV, documentaries, advertisements, movies, or  music. Ideas are everywhere! As our children get older, they are exposed…

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Family Pastor, Your Home is Your Focus Group

By Church Life, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

As a side benefit of my conference ministry, I am privileged to meet a number of godly young pastors. Some have the role of family pastor and some are senior pastors with a heart for family discipleship. The very reason they have me in to speak is because they want to equip the parents in their church to pass the gospel to the next generation.  They also know the church is important in this calling. And so they will launch initiatives to encourage and help parents. But too often those initiatives have less success than they wanted. What seemed like a…

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Forgiveness in the Family

By Family Discipleship, Marriage, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

A young man was telling me about his upbringing. He enjoys his grown siblings but his parents are a challenge. When I asked the reason, he replied that there had been so many offenses between the two of them that they now just coexist as roommates. More and more I am convinced that a primary ingredient in a marriage, in a family, and in a church is forgiveness. Love and forgiveness are the gospel-glue that hold relationships together. Living in a gospel-filled home does not mean we are perfect. It does mean we forgive much based on how much we…

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Talking Points for Biblical Sexuality

By Discerning Culture, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

In my Disciple-Making Parent conference, I take one hour to talk about special issues affecting preteens and teens. One area that parents need to be able to articulate is the area of sexuality. In our sex-saturated world, our kids are being discipled by the world with nonChristian ideas. We need to be clear on what the Bible has to say. Below are a few talking points that I think need to be clear in our mind.  1. Sex is God’s idea. It is good. It is meant to be a sign and seal of a man and woman’s covenant relationship. 2. Sin entered the…

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Raising Children to the Glory of God – Ed Moore

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast, Uncategorized
In this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent, we present a special message from Ed Moore. Drawing from his extensive personal and pastoral experience, Ed shares valuable insights on parenting. He underscores the significance of expressing love to our children frequently and the impact of creating memories through spontaneous, fun, and creative activities. Ed further highlights the role of faith and grace in parenting, narrating his own journey of learning from failure and defeat. This episode is full of wisdom about raising children in a godly, impactful, and joyful manner. Resources From This Podcast The Cross Centered Life, by C.J. Mahaney...
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Looking in the Mirror for Change

By Christian Living, Discerning Culture

But be doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. Because if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like someone looking at his own face in a mirror. For he looks at himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of person he was. But the one who looks intently into the perfect law of freedom and perseveres in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer who works—this person will be blessed in what he does. James 1:22-25 CSB As I get older, I have noticed a number of different types of…

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Launching Your Eighteen Year-Old

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond

“Do you have any helps for how I can work with my twenty-year-old young adult?” “How do I disciple my eighteen-year-old?”  “Do you have any advice for me as my children approach the adult years and leave home?” I hear these and similar questions at every conference that I conduct. And I understand that pain. As a young father I wanted to be intentional in my parenting. When my children were young, I read a number of resources that helped give me a strong foundation. Later, I also began to develop biblical principles of discipleship appropriate to the ages of my…

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Five Reasons to Make Dinner an Event

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

When Sharon and I were starting out as a family, we brainstormed on different practices that we hoped would characterize our family. Why? God gives us the privilege of creating a little family culture. For example, we have the privilege of determining the food we eat, the music in the house, the decorations on the wall, and the values we hold. It is a privilege. It is also a reflection of our imaging God. We are (rightly) ruling over this little part of God’s world. One of those values we had was we both wanted to emphasize family dinners. We…

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