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28 Communication Inhibitors

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Marriage

Let’s take a moment and think about a number of things that inhibit communication. I came across this list in my files. I think it is original but if it isn’t I am happy to give credit. I believe you will find this list of different inhibitors convicting. When we act this way we can confess our sin. And again we also want to train our children in good communication. The Silent Treatment – sulking, withdrawing. (2 Corinthians 6:11-13, Genesis 3:8, 1 John 1:7, Ephesian 4:25 speak truthfully) Using inflammatory words – stupid, etc. (Proverbs 12:18, Proverbs 16:24) Using generalizing words – always, never,…

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Tim Shorey – Respect the Image: How to Communicate Well

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

Our homes are filled with words. Some of these words are helpful and unfortunately, some are not. What if we had some help thinking biblically about communication? In today’s podcast, we’re going to be talking with my friend, Tim Shorey about his book Respect the Image. In that book, Tim uses the acrostic COMMUNICATE to give us biblical principles of communication. Chill Open Up Make Time Mean What You Say Understand What You Hear Nourish with Grace Initiate Peace Celebrate Others Assume You are Wrong Think the Best Examine Your Heart I think you’ll find our conversation enjoyable and practical…

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Four Keys to Self-Awareness

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Marriage

Part of a good leader’s job is to continually grow. Paul told Timothy, “Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress” (1 Tim 4:15). This growth will often come through self-reflection and self-correction – also called repentance. But how does this occur in real life? Why is it that some individuals keep on doing the same thing over and over again? I propose it is because they have not made a mental habit of self-reflection. I was a computer programmer for a few short years before the internet. When an issue would arise in the middle…

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Chap Bettis – How Understanding Temptation Reorients Us

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

It’s easy as Christians to get into a sin confess cycle that we don’t actually back up and think about what comes before the sin. Once you start looking, you’ll find that both the concept and the word temptation are all over scripture. We would do well to recover and think about the biblical teaching on temptation and how it benefits those of us seeking to live out the gospel in our home. In this episode we’ll look at a proper understanding of temptation and how it can help frame the way we understand ourselves and shepherd our children.

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7 People God Tells Us to Honor

By Christian Living, Church Life, Family Discipleship, Grandparents, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I have been bothered recently by a trend I see both in the church, in our culture, and in a younger generation. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it until I heard of good friends who were “canceled” by their professing Christian daughters. Sharon and I raised our children with this couple, and while they certainly were not perfect, as far as we can tell they were not abusive. A second close family had a similar situation happen to them. They relayed their story to us with broken hearts. Both families have been cut off from their grandchildren. In addition, the…

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What Causes Fights and Quarrels [in My Marriage]?

By Christian Living, Marriage

Every marriage relationship experiences conflict. Sometimes it can be healthy conflict. Many times it can be destructive conflict. I have already written about preventing destructive conflict here. James 4:1-2 is well-known but often not thought of when it comes to the marriage relationship. This verse can provide some special help in understanding your last conflict and moving towards a more positive discussion next time. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You…

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Travis Rymer – Current Issues Teens Face – Part 2

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The Christian faith and values are under attack. How is the Christian to respond and how do we equip our children? This episode is part two in a two-part series on equipping ourselves and our children to live in this new world. Travis Rymer serves as an associate pastor in my home church of Grace Harbor in Providence, Rhode Island. He and his wife, Rebeca live in Providence with their three children. He is a graduate of Gordon Conwell Seminary.   Issues Teens Face handout (includes outline, glossary, and recommended reading)  

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Travis Rymer – Current Issues Teens Face – Part 1

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The Christian faith and values are under attack. How is the Christian to respond and how do we equip our children? This episode is part one in a two-part series on equipping ourselves and our children to live in this new world. Travis Rymer serves as an associate pastor in my home church of Grace Harbor in Providence, Rhode Island. He and his wife, Rebeca live in Providence with their three children. He is a graduate of Gordon Conwell Seminary.   Issues Teens Face handout (includes outline, glossary, and recommended reading)  

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Do You Have a Plan for Protecting Your Children on Social Media?

By Uncategorized

I recently had an opportunity to hear from Aime Konwinski. She is the founder of Smart Gen Society.  Her presentation particularly focused on the issues around social media. Here are statistics she gave us: 56% of 5-year-olds have their own digital device. The average age to get a smartphone in the US: 10 (roughly 4th grade). 94% of high schoolers use social media. 70% of middle schoolers use social media. 75% of fourth graders use social media (particularly Tik-Tok) in Omaha area. The average American teen spends 7 hours a day on digital media. Since 2019, the National Center for Missing and…

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Am I a Hypocritical Parent?

By Christian Living, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

If our example is so important, then what should we focus on? Look with me at the words Paul used to describe the faith of Timothy’s mother and grandmother: I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well. (2 Timothy 1:5) Sincere is the first word that Paul used to describe the faith Timothy had seen. The Greek word literally is “non-hypocritical.” The examples that Timothy had seen were non-hypocritical, authentic, and genuine. But what is hypocrisy? Some would say…

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