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Helping Your Kids Know God Better: An Interview with Focus on the Family

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond
Over the summer, I had the opportunity to sit down with Jim Daly and John Fuller at Focus on the Family to discuss my book The Disciple-Making Parent. In this interview, we discussed the following: Why Christian parenting is counter-cultural.   Practical things that should alert you that you’re creating a child-centered family.   Defining Pharisee parenting where moms and dads need to be sure their walk with the Lord is solid before preaching to their kids.   Three common myths moms and dads have about discipling their children.   Encouragement to parents who feel like they have already failed...
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The Battle for Your Child’s Heart and Mind

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond
Chap Bettis at Focus on the Family In today's cultural moment, forces are gunning for our children and grandchildren. There's a battle raging for your child's heart and mind. I sat down with Focus on the Family to discuss the importance of this battle as we seek to faithfully pass on the gospel baton to our children.   There Are Two Prodigal Sons  A lot of people miss that there are two prodigal sons. One prodigal is off ruining the family fortune and his father's honor through sin. But the other one is staying in the house; he is just...
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Let Your Kids Wrestle with the Faith

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond
Timothy grew up without a believing father but a faithful mom and grandmother. In 2 Timothy 3:14, Paul to Timothy, “continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of;” We see in this passage that he learned faith in Christ as a young person, but he had to become convinced. I know in my own story I think I made a genuine profession of faith around the age of eight years old. But during the time of high school, I had doubts. I had questions about Jesus existing, God existing, or are we just making all this up?...
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Big Tech’s Battle for Your Child’s Faith and Attention

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond
I've heard people say today's teenagers are more connected than ever, but they're more lonely than ever. Why? Because they're relating to their friends through a screen. And not only that, there's other content they can access through a screen; the whole world is on this phone. I go back to affection and authority. As a parent, I'm going to realize that there's a danger both in the amount of time and the content. Just the amount of time they spend on their phone changes their interactions with their friends. So, I'm going to try and guard them. I'm going...
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Balancing Affection and Authority with Your Child

By Parenting: Childhood
How can we balance affection and authority?  One helpful principle is to think about parenting as both affection and authority. That's the way God treats us. He is both the ultimate authority, and he is our loving Heavenly Father. Similarly, we want to show our children affection. We want there to be joy in the house. We want them to know that they are loved, and there is grace. And at the same time, we can also have boundaries. We can have consequences. In fact, there have been some psychological studies that have come out that have found that children...
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Guy Wilcox – How to Use The Disciple-Making Parent to Equip Parents in Your Church

By Church Life, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast
You're a person who loves the material that The Disciple-Making Parent produces, but how do you help others catch the vision? What can you do to help others pass the gospel to their children and keep them from becoming spiritual casualties? In today’s episode, Guy Wilcox, a youth pastor out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, gets very specific about how he used the book, The Disciple-Making Parent to equip the parents in his large church. ----- We want to help you raise strong disciples of Jesus Christ, who can stand strong in today's culture, and you can get the audiobook of the...
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Should I Make My Teen Go to Church?

By Church Life, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond
I have been asked this question four times in the past four months. Though there are variations, the basic question is, "Should I make my teenager go to church if he or she doesn't want to?" One parent thinks of a 16-year-old son who says, "I am not a Christian and don’t enjoy church; why do I have to go?" Others were thinking of a similar scenario. One added the twist of having a 19 or 20-year-old still living at home and negatively influencing the younger siblings. The following are some wisdom principles that would lead me to conclude that...
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Dads: Don’t and Do Defend Your Wife

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Marriage

I recently was presenting a workshop on overcoming anger, and two moms brought up a point that may help all of us. I stated that anger is an emotion given to us when we see something that is important and wrong. However, Ephesians 4:26 tells us, “In your anger, do not sin.” That is to say, anger is a special temptation to sin. We are often wrong in our understanding of how important and how wrong something is. We can be sinfully angry in how we address something. But we also need to allow that anger, I said, to prompt…

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Pastor All the Sheep

By Christian Living, Church Life, Family Discipleship

I recently was asked to give a very short talk to pastors about the pastor’s family.I wrote about the subject several years ago here: How Churches Can Care for Their Pastor’s Children How Pastors Can Care for Their Children *The following are my rough notes from my most recent talk.*Having pastored for over 30 years and raised my children as a pastor, what advice would I give that is unique to a pastor? Here are three specific thoughts. 1. Pastor all the sheep. When you study the life of Jesus you see that there was a priority in discipleship: the crowds, the 70, the 12,…

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Keith Plummer – How Scientism Might Be Causing Problems for You or Your Teen

By Apologetics, Discerning Culture, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast
"If only I had some scientific proof that Christianity is true that would really strengthen my faith." Have you ever found yourself thinking something like that? Or maybe your teen has also wished that there was scientific proof for Christianity? If that's true, then this podcast is for you. In today's podcast, we're going to be thinking about the blessing and limitations of science. We live in a time when we're blessed and amazed at the scientific discoveries that enrich our lives. But a belief in science can morph into the idea that science itself is how we know reality....
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