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What Causes Fights and Quarrels [in My Marriage]?

By Christian Living, Marriage

Every marriage relationship experiences conflict. Sometimes it can be healthy conflict. Many times it can be destructive conflict. I have already written about preventing destructive conflict here. James 4:1-2 is well-known but often not thought of when it comes to the marriage relationship. This verse can provide some special help in understanding your last conflict and moving towards a more positive discussion next time. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You…

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Am I a Hypocritical Parent?

By Christian Living, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

If our example is so important, then what should we focus on? Look with me at the words Paul used to describe the faith of Timothy’s mother and grandmother: I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well. (2 Timothy 1:5) Sincere is the first word that Paul used to describe the faith Timothy had seen. The Greek word literally is “non-hypocritical.” The examples that Timothy had seen were non-hypocritical, authentic, and genuine. But what is hypocrisy? Some would say…

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How Do You Feel About Your Own Authority?

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I recently returned from a wonderful time at Together for the Gospel (T4G) with over 11,000 in attendance. The conference encouraged me over the years as a pastor. There was always wonderful teaching, worship, fellowship, and books. Lots and lots of books! It was a balm to my soul. One talk this year was particularly helpful in thinking about authority. As I listened, I found myself thinking about all of the parents today who seem uncomfortable with the authority God says that we have. Much of this can be traced to a misunderstanding of the nature of authority that our culture…

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Dr. Richard Ross – Connecting with the Heart of Your Teen

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

    Watch the interview with Dr. Ross on YouTube. Resources From This Podcast Turning Hearts– Dr. Ross’s website Jesus: The Reigning King, by Rob Rienow and Richard Ross Reign: Awakening a Young Generation to King Jesus, by Richard Ross & Clayton Ross Topics Covered In This Week’s Podcast 00:15 Introduction 02:15 Creating a heart connection with your teen 08:18 Keeping the heart connection healthy 17:15 The necessity of encouragement 29:07 The impact of Christ’s reign on the lives of teens Episode Transcript Chap: I’m Chap Bettis, and you’re listening to The Disciple-Making Parent, where we seek to equip parents…

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Can You Feel the Incarnation?

By Christian Living

  “For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, so that you through his poverty might become rich.” (2 Corinthians 8:9) I dont know about you but I cannot grasp that grace of the incarnation. Several years ago, I came across a story in National Geographic (June 2003) that has stayed with me. In it, I begin to feel the incarnation in a minuscule way. Perhaps it will affect you too. The following is my summary from the article. It is a story about people like…

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Completing the Work

By Christian Living

I believe that for those with unstructured weeks, managing our time is a unique challenge. How can we manage ourselves better? The following meditation was written for church leaders but it can certainly apply to the busy mom too! We will start with a short theological foundation by looking at a verse that shocks the senses of a Type-A personality. In John 17, we are able to peer into the intimate conversation between Father and Son before the torture of the cross. As we eavesdrop from the shadows, we hear these words from Jesus. I have brought you glory on earth…

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The First Priority for Discipleship

By Christian Living

The First Priority for Discipleship (an excerpt from The Disciple-Making Parent) When Paul looked back on Timothy’s upbringing, he started with Timothy’s most powerful influence—the examples in his life: But as for you, continue in what you have learned and become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it… (2 Timothy 3:14 NIV) Timothy, like all second-generation Christians, was influenced to follow the Lord by the living faith of the people in his life. His mother Eunice, grandmother Lois, and others had made a positive impact on Timothy. Even before the apostle Paul mentioned the influence of…

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Two Simple Images For Your Marriage

By Christian Living

Two Simple but Helpful Images for Your Marriage A solid marriage is essential to display the gospel to the watching world and to our children. Yet, it seems that it has never been harder. Many false ideas, images, expectations, and beliefs seduce both young and old. In our small group, I recently brought up two simple, classic images that picture vital concepts to building a strong and healthy marriage. These are not original to me and have been around for decades. But they are classic because they hold important truths. The Three-legged Race Though it seems to fallen out of favor,…

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Protection Not Secrecy

By Christian Living

Love always protects. 1 Cor 13:7 NIV Our small group of newly-marrieds recently had its first meeting. As we were talking about applying Christian principles to marriage, two young men remarked about the atmosphere in their workplace. Almost every male coworker, they said, regularly complained about his wife and his marriage. What had started with high hopes had turned sour and they wanted all their buddies at work to know. Christians can fall into this same behavior. Whether at work, to our friends, or just in our hearts, we can grumble about our wives. And while complaining certainly is a…

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Emotional Blackmail and Self-Absorption

By Christian Living

Recognizing Emotional Blackmail and the Self-Absorption of the Wounded to grant to those who mourn in Zion—    to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes,the oil of gladness instead of mourning,    the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit;that they may be called oaks of righteousness,    the planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified. Isaiah 61:3 Woundedness, Blackmail, and Justice John Piper’s observation was the first I found that named and articulated a problem I had seen often. Whether in marriage, leadership teams, or other places where Christians come in conflict, something was off but I couldn’t describe it–until I read…

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