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Am I a Hypocritical Parent?

By Christian Living, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

If our example is so important, then what should we focus on? Look with me at the words Paul used to describe the faith of Timothy’s mother and grandmother: I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well. (2 Timothy 1:5) Sincere is the first word that Paul used to describe the faith Timothy had seen. The Greek word literally is “non-hypocritical.” The examples that Timothy had seen were non-hypocritical, authentic, and genuine. But what is hypocrisy? Some would say…

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How Do You Feel About Your Own Authority?

By Christian Living, Family Discipleship, Leadership, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I recently returned from a wonderful time at Together for the Gospel (T4G) with over 11,000 in attendance. The conference encouraged me over the years as a pastor. There was always wonderful teaching, worship, fellowship, and books. Lots and lots of books! It was a balm to my soul. One talk this year was particularly helpful in thinking about authority. As I listened, I found myself thinking about all of the parents today who seem uncomfortable with the authority God says that we have. Much of this can be traced to a misunderstanding of the nature of authority that our culture…

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How Can I Expect My Children to Honor Me Since I Am a Sinner Too?

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I was recently asked this question at a conference. Have you ever wondered the same thing? Certainly, as parents, we blow it. Can we still ask our children to honor us? God has put children in our lives to shine a floodlight on our own need to grow. Time and time again we see our own sinful actions and reactions in our family. Yet Scripture also calls our children to honor us. How can we ask them to do this us when we are so sinful? (And I would add, are we calling them to honor us at all? I believe this…

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Are You Believing This Myth?

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

We live life based on the Ideas that we have. Sometimes we pick up those ideas consciously and sometimes unconsciously. This week’s article will help us look at the #2 myth that intentional Christian parents believe. The following is an excerpt of page 20 from The Disciple-Making Parent. Are You Believing this Myth? Myth 2: The ultimate goal of my Christian life is to have my children follow the Lord. Some parents need the reminder of the beginning of this chapter, that they themselves are primarily responsible to disciple their children. However, at the other end of the spectrum are the parents who would do anything for the…

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Filling Your Home with Music

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Praise the Lord! For it is good to sing praises to our God; for it is pleasant, and a song of praise is fitting. Ps 147:1 Two of the strengths Sharon brings to our home is her love for and talent with music. She has a beautiful voice and has used it to honor the Lord in worship for many years. When we first started raising children and thinking about discipling our family, what we hoped the culture of our family would be, we both wanted to have a home filled with music. Music is a Gift Scripture makes clear that…

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Seven Ways to Pray for Your Children

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

In Chapter 20 of The Disciple-Making Parent I have a whole chapter on praying for our children. Prayer is both a duty (as in difficult work) and a delight. The Lord gives us access to his throne room based on the blood of Jesus. Yet often we find it difficult to pray for our children. Here are seven suggested ways to pray for your children and for your family. 1. Pray with thanksgiving. Paul began his letters with giving thanks. Even when writing the problem-filled church of Corinth, he started with thanking God for them. Thanksgiving has a way of altering…

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Forced To Be Kind?

By Parenting: Childhood

Kindness in the FamilyIf you have young children, I know that low-level fighting and provoking seem like part of normal life. What did we expect? We gave birth to little sinners and little sinners like to find anything they can to fight about.Yet in the midst of that messiness, we will want to aim for family unity. Notice I said aim. I wrote about that focus several weeks ago. If you missed it, you can read it here on the blog: Aiming for Family Unity. But in the midst of that battle for unity, how can we train our children? In digging deeper…

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The Memory Pot

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I have said before that the family is to display the Trinity. In the family, as in the Trinity, there is unity, diversity, love, honor, and obedience. And as an intentional parent I repeatedly wanted to cast a vision for all of those values when our children were at home.But do you notice a missing component?Joy. The Triune God is a happy God and overflows with joy! Similarly, I believe one of the most attractive qualities we can strive for in our families is joy. Joy marks us off as different than the world. Joy is a fruit of the Holy…

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We’re Working On That

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

When Your Child Embarrasses You  If it hasn’t happened this week, you know it’s coming.You meet up with another family and out of the blue, your five-year-old pushes a four-year-old girl to the ground. You are humiliated.Or your four-year-old whines when given a command or says, “No” to you. And all this happened in front of other parents. Expecting Mess Ups As parents we are not responsible for the actions of our young children. They are children after all. Parenting is a process with many bumps along the road. In Parenting with Confidence, I urge parents to focus on winning the…

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Aiming for Family Unity

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell together in unity!…For there the Lord has commanded the blessing, life forevermore. Psalm 133:1,3 We just returned from a unique family trip/vacation. All of our children have jobs, so Sharon and I proposed a trip out west where we would pay for housing. All the other expenses would be split evenly. They agreed. And we have just returned from a week where we saw the Grand Canyon, Zion National Park, and Bryce National Park. Since all of us are working, we were able to enjoy more adventures than when I was a…

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