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Handling Grandparents Who Disagree

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

Question: We are Christians but both sets of our parents are not. How do we handle their disagreement with how we are raising our children (their grandchildren)? I was recently asked that question at a conference. Thankfully, Sharon and I had wonderfully supportive parents. However, I have talked with enough families to begin to understand some of the problems. I know I risk giving simplistic answers to complex family situations and dynamics. Nevertheless, here is my reply. We are commanded by God to honor our parents. Although we don’t obey them as adults we are still called to honor. This…

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The Power of Family Meals

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

The word liturgical has come to mean the order of the worship service. That worship routine creates a culture. The word liturgy sticks in my mind when thinking about the power of family meals in creating family connectedness. In our casual child-centeredness, I fear we have lost something valuable – a theology of food and the impact of family meals. As I travel about, I see too many good families who are not thoughtful in the area of family meals. And we are the poorer for it. In this article, I want to argue for why you should be intentional about…

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Vacations, Family Trips, and Family Discipleship

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

A year ago, I had just returned home from a week of enjoying my daughter’s college graduation and some much-needed R & R. Truly, life is short. Was it only yesterday that she was a three-year-old waltzing around, carrying lots of purses, and wearing her mom’s high heels? But as our family gathered for her graduation and I began thinking about that week, it made me reflect on some principles I tried to apply to our family vacations and trips. I didn’t perfectly follow them and we certainly had our share of family meltdowns. But maybe you will find these…

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Why “OK?” Is Not OK

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

The heart of The Disciple-Making Parent is helping parents pass the gospel to and disciple their children. Inevitably that spills over into what we might call Basic Parenting or Parenting 101. I cover this in my Parenting with Confidence seminar and course. And in that teaching I make a Study Bible analogy. In a Study Bible, there are inspired words from God that you may not argue with, only seek to understand and obey. There are also words that are commentary from fallible men and women. This Study Bible notes are not inspired but come from wisdom. I offer the…

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Who Should Discipline? Mom or Dad?

By Parenting: Childhood

I was recently presenting at a conference and was suggesting that Aaron’s son’s sins of active disobedience and passive disobedience might have been influenced by Aaron’s passivity as a leader. Though parents are certainly not responsible for the choices our children make as adults, we do have some influence over them as we shape their wills growing up. One application of that talk was to strongly suggest that men fight passivity and engage in leading their home and specifically in the area of child discipline. At the end of that talk, one mom asked this question, “I have just come…

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Erma Bombeck – What Does A Father Do?

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Not Christian per se but still practical and wise …..Chap   I received a letter from a single mother who had raised a son who was about to become a dad. Since he had no recollection of his own father, her question to me was “What do I tell him a father does?” When my dad died in my ninth year, I, too, was raised by my mother, giving rise to the same question, “What do fathers do?” As far as I could observe, they brought around the car when it rained so everyone else could stay dry. They always…

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The Power of the Red Plate: Changing the Negative Atmosphere in Your Home

By Parenting: Childhood

One Easy Idea to Change the Negative Atmosphere of Your Home As you know, life can be discouraging for our children. It can seem like we are always correcting them. Things don’t always go their way. In addition, family squabbling can also deflate the atmosphere in our homes. What if I told you of one simple trick to change the tone of your house? Sharon and I practiced this consistently around our family dinners and it often provided a much-needed boost. It is the tradition of The Red Plate. As the leaders of our home, we have the power to…

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Who Should Discipline? Mom or Dad? – 10 Guiding Principles

By Parenting: Childhood

Who Should Discipline? I was recently presenting at a conference and suggested that Aaron’s son’s sins of active disobedience and passive disobedience might have been influenced by Aaron’s passivity as a leader. Though parents are certainly not responsible for the choices our children make as adults, we do influence and shape their wills as they grow up. I strongly encouraged men to fight their natural passivity and engage in leading their homes. One specific application was in the area of child discipline. At the end of that presentation one mom asked this question, “I have just come from a talk…

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Solid Gold Advice from a Seasoned Christian Pediatrician

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

How would you like to hear the accumulated wisdom of a seasoned Christian pediatrician? Now you can! Dr. Tom Hines is on the Board of Directors of The Apollos Project and is a pediatrician in Lincoln RI. In addition, he is a long time Christian and father of four grown children. I sat down with him for an hour and recorded what he had to say. In his easy-going style he addresses all sorts of subjects: fear, media, structure and limitations, boredom and creativity. Parents, you are going to want to listen to this. Grandparents, pass this on to others….

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The Father Delights in Us

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The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” Zeph 3:17 How do we picture our Heavenly Father? This verse makes clear that, as a good father, God our Father takes delight in us. He rejoices over us with singing. That is an amazing type of love coming from the Holy One. Do you know that love of the Father? No doubt one of the reason God gives us children is to teach the fathers and…

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