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We’re Working On That

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

When Your Child Embarrasses You  If it hasn’t happened this week, you know it’s coming.You meet up with another family and out of the blue, your five-year-old pushes a four-year-old girl to the ground. You are humiliated.Or your four-year-old whines when given a command or says, “No” to you. And all this happened in front of other parents. Expecting Mess Ups As parents we are not responsible for the actions of our young children. They are children after all. Parenting is a process with many bumps along the road. In Parenting with Confidence, I urge parents to focus on winning the…

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Is Something Missing in Our Gospel-Parenting?

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

I have noticed a good but misguided desire among many young Christians parents. They seek to be intentional in the way they raise their children. Many have an excellent desire to be more gospel-focused. They want to treat their children the way that God is treating them – with grace. So they draw a direct line from this grace and want to parent with grace. Unfortunately, using just this paradigm for parenting flattens the gospel. When we look at the whole of Scripture we see that God adopted Israel as his son and called him out of Egypt. The Scripture tells…

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Dr. Tom Hines: A Baby’s First Year

By Parenting: Early Years, Podcast

What if you could listen to a wise pediatrician coach you through the first year of your baby’s life? What if he had information that could help you and your baby sleep through the night sooner. Would you be interested?  Dr. Tom Hines has been a pediatrician for over 30 years and seen lots of babies. In addition, he and his wife, Mary Jo had four children of their own. He came to talk with me about his best advice that he would give for baby’s first year.  If you are about to have a child listen closely for some…

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Speaking with Verbal Authority

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

Verbal authority. Some people have it. Some people need to develop it. My mother, at 5’7″ and slight of build, taught high school English. She was a tough and effective teacher. Over the years she has had many students tell her she was their favorite high school teacher. But don’t doubt that she was in control of her classroom. She had football players weighing twice as much as her completely under her control. Her greatest challenge? One year she had an afternoon class of thirty, comprised of hormonal football players and flirty cheerleaders. She exerted her authority … and they…

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Mom Question: Are We More Needy Than Previous Generations?

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

I was recently having dinner with five couples after a speaking engagement. One earnest mom who had become a Christian around the age of seventeen asked me, “Are we as moms more needy than previous generations? After all, my mother never read a parenting book.” She was so sweet and sincere that I knew it was not a trap even though as a man I felt it was a sensitive subject to address. Here was the essence of my answer to her: No, You Are Not Intentional parents have always realized they were embarking on a new journey with limited…

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Handling Grandparents Who Disagree

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

Question: We are Christians but both sets of our parents are not. How do we handle their disagreement with how we are raising our children (their grandchildren)? I was recently asked that question at a conference. Thankfully, Sharon and I had wonderfully supportive parents. However, I have talked with enough families to begin to understand some of the problems. I know I risk giving simplistic answers to complex family situations and dynamics. Nevertheless, here is my reply. We are commanded by God to honor our parents. Although we don’t obey them as adults we are still called to honor. This…

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Why “OK?” Is Not OK

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years

The heart of The Disciple-Making Parent is helping parents pass the gospel to and disciple their children. Inevitably that spills over into what we might call Basic Parenting or Parenting 101. I cover this in my Parenting with Confidence seminar and course. And in that teaching I make a Study Bible analogy. In a Study Bible, there are inspired words from God that you may not argue with, only seek to understand and obey. There are also words that are commentary from fallible men and women. This Study Bible notes are not inspired but come from wisdom. I offer the…

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Eight Thoughts on Protecting the Purity of Your Daughter

By Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond No Comments

Here are eight thoughts on protecting the purity of our daughters. To my daughters, these are my prayers and aims for you! 1. Gain and Keep Her Heart – Does she know and trust you, her parents? Do you know her heart? Have you taken time to listen? Is she finding her identity in Christ and not in a relationship with someone else? 2. Protect Her Purity – As a child, the parents are the door to the sheepfold, protecting her from the wolves. As she grows older it becomes a shared responsibility. 3. Show the Beauty of Purity and…

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Three Truths to Defeat the Comparison Virus

By Parenting: Early Years

The Foolishness of Comparing But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding. (2 Corinthians 10:12). Comparison with others is a basic fact of life. We look at others and judge ourselves inferior in money, beauty, intelligence, ministry, career, or family. As a result, we feel insecure. Or we see that we are succeeding in some of those areas and feel reassured. Much of advertising is built on this unconscious activity of comparing ourselves. Isn’t the comparison of our perfect Facebook or Instagram lives one reason that anxiety is on the…

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Solid Gold Advice from a Seasoned Christian Pediatrician

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

How would you like to hear the accumulated wisdom of a seasoned Christian pediatrician? Now you can! Dr. Tom Hines is on the Board of Directors of The Apollos Project and is a pediatrician in Lincoln RI. In addition, he is a long time Christian and father of four grown children. I sat down with him for an hour and recorded what he had to say. In his easy-going style he addresses all sorts of subjects: fear, media, structure and limitations, boredom and creativity. Parents, you are going to want to listen to this. Grandparents, pass this on to others….

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