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Seven Ways to Pray for Your Children

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Early Years, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

In Chapter 20 of The Disciple-Making Parent I have a whole chapter on praying for our children. Prayer is both a duty (as in difficult work) and a delight. The Lord gives us access to his throne room based on the blood of Jesus. Yet often we find it difficult to pray for our children. Here are seven suggested ways to pray for your children and for your family. 1. Pray with thanksgiving. Paul began his letters with giving thanks. Even when writing the problem-filled church of Corinth, he started with thanking God for them. Thanksgiving has a way of altering…

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The Memory Pot

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I have said before that the family is to display the Trinity. In the family, as in the Trinity, there is unity, diversity, love, honor, and obedience. And as an intentional parent I repeatedly wanted to cast a vision for all of those values when our children were at home.But do you notice a missing component?Joy. The Triune God is a happy God and overflows with joy! Similarly, I believe one of the most attractive qualities we can strive for in our families is joy. Joy marks us off as different than the world. Joy is a fruit of the Holy…

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Aiming for Family Unity

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell together in unity!…For there the Lord has commanded the blessing, life forevermore. Psalm 133:1,3 We just returned from a unique family trip/vacation. All of our children have jobs, so Sharon and I proposed a trip out west where we would pay for housing. All the other expenses would be split evenly. They agreed. And we have just returned from a week where we saw the Grand Canyon, Zion National Park, and Bryce National Park. Since all of us are working, we were able to enjoy more adventures than when I was a…

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Help! I Caught My Son Looking at Porn – Episode 2

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Sexuality

Well, it happened again. I received a call from a church leader I know fairly well that lives in another part of the country. During a routine update of filtering software, he and wife discovered his 16 year-old son had disabled it. In addition, his son had been lying about other things including his schoolwork. Now this was all out in the open and the family was in tatters. Since I could visualize his situation with my friend, I expanded on some similar things I had said in this article to the mother of a younger son. 1. See this…

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Valentine’s Day and Christian Dads or Why I Still Send Valentine’s Gifts to My Daughters

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond

Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. And I am the poorer for it.  There is something about knowing florists, card-makers, and restaurants make a killing off this self-declared holiday that drives me a little crazy. Each year I stare it in the face and waver. But my kind wife gives me a little push. And I am glad she does. Each Valentine’s Day, my single adult daughters receive a significant gift from us. Why?  Because the truth of the matter is that Valentine’s Day celebrates romantic love. That’s great if you have a valentine. But if you don’t, it can be a prolonged cultural reminder that…

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ERLC 2018 – Church Structure, Parental Insecurity, and Parenting Adult Children

By Family Discipleship, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

I recently had the privilege of participating on a panel at ERLC 2018 – The Storm-Tossed Family.  Following were the questions we were asked to prepare for and my bullet point responses. What would you add? Parents don’t see their role as disciple-making. They are busy making sure they are fed, staying out of trouble, and getting into school. How does the disciple-making paradigm change the way we think about parenting? I know what it’s like to be busy – 4 kids each two years apart. 6,4,2, newborn, 2010 was our teen year – 19-13. We are not connecting what…

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John Piper on Questions to Ask When Preparing for Marriage

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond No Comments

John Piper has an excellent (and exhaustive!) list of questions that couples can ask each other before they are married.  Whether or not our children can handle his list, it raises the question for the parents, “How will I equip my child to prepare for marriage? How will I equip my child to begin the process?” I have learned from church conflict situations that the time to stress the value of church unity is when there is peace in the congregation. If I stress unity in the midst of a disagreement, it will seem I am telling people they must…

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The Lavish Father, The Prodigal Sons, and My Family

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Podcast

The Prodigal Son is one of Jesus’ most beloved stories. Yet, we could actually be overlooking the main point of the story. In this episode, I invite you to listen in on a sermon I preached on Luke 15 and The Prodigal Son. Or should I say Prodigal Sons? If you are the parent of a prodigal child, this episode can help you understand God’s lavish love for you and encourage you to love that prodigal even more. As you enter into the deep pain caused to the father, it may help you draw new strength to love those that have…

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A Parable of Two Kind Police Officers

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

There once was a boy and a girl who grew up in a small town. As these stories go, Jonathan and Amy fell in love with each other and were married. But along the way they discovered something else they had it common – both loved their little town and they loved serving it. In particular, Jonathan and Amy both loved keeping the peace and safety by being police officers. And so this husband and wife became officers of the law. And the community loved them. Two of their own would be serving the town! Problems Arise However, Jonathan and…

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The Power of Family Meals

By Parenting: Childhood, Parenting: Teens and Beyond

The word liturgical has come to mean the order of the worship service. That worship routine creates a culture. The word liturgy sticks in my mind when thinking about the power of family meals in creating family connectedness. In our casual child-centeredness, I fear we have lost something valuable – a theology of food and the impact of family meals. As I travel about, I see too many good families who are not thoughtful in this area. And we are the poorer for it. In this article, I want to argue for why you should be intentional about your family meals….

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