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Help! I Caught My Son Looking at Porn – Episode 2

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Sexuality

Well, it happened again. I received a call from a church leader I know fairly well that lives in another part of the country. During a routine update of filtering software, he and wife discovered his 16 year-old son had disabled it. In addition, his son had been lying about other things including his schoolwork. Now this was all out in the open and the family was in tatters. Since I could visualize his situation with my friend, I expanded on some similar things I had said in this article to the mother of a younger son. 1. See this…

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What Narrative Are We Telling Our Children?

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I had a great time learning from Ed Shaw and Sam Allberry at the Living Out Local Course. This ministry is run by and aimed at Christian men and women who experience same-sex attraction. I believe these men and women are living heroes of the faith. Several things bear repeating for a disciple-making parent. Shaw and Allberry asked this question. “What narrative are we telling our young children? Many Christians will marry when they are adults. But not all. Some are eunuchs or make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom (Matt 19).” The Narrative As parents, if we…

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Seven Discipleship Objectives for Raising Sexually Healthy Children

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If we watch Jesus disciple his followers we see times of formal teaching and informal teaching. There are times when he proactively taught and other times where he taught in reaction to something that had come up. This grid helps me as I seek to disciple my own children. There are things that I hope they will know when they leave home. Some of those things will be taught formally, some informally. Some will be presented proactively and some reactively. There is a readiness that comes in discipleship. We want to transfer information and conviction to our children. Biblical and…

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Help! I Caught My Son Looking at Porn!

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Like the mother above, we may be horrified by what we find on our computer. I received this email recently. What would you say? My husband and I planted a church in [redacted ] several years ago. I’ve been leading a Mom’s Bible study using your book The Disciple Making Parent. Two days ago I caught our almost 15 year old son looking at inappropriate pictures on the Internet. We are purchasing software for our devices, etc. but I was wondering if you have any resources that you would recommend for the discipleship process that we now need to embark…

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Handling Pornography and the Role of Covenant Eyes

By Podcast, Sexuality

Pornography is a demonic parasite on the Christian church and Christian family. Unless we have an active strategy it will infiltrate our lives and homes. In this podcast I talk with Dan Armstrong, Corporate Communications Specialist at Covenant Eyes. We talk about how prevalent this issue is, what successful churches are doing, and what families can do. Listen in to be educated on this subject.

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Complementarian Thoughts for My Daughter

By Parenting: Teens and Beyond, Sexuality No Comments

With the current misunderstanding of Biblical masculinity and femininity, and with one daughter headed off from home, I have penned the following summary overview for what I believe Scripture teaches. It is not complete but touches on points I want her to understand. – 1. You are made in God’s image and extremely valuable to him (Gen 1:26-27). 2. Both men and women are on equal footing when it comes to salvation and access to the Father (Galatians 3:28). Both men and women are equally beloved by Jesus. Both men and women are equal recipients of the Holy Spirit. 3….

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