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Honoring Grandparents In an Age of Unhonor

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Family relationships are tricky. Sin affects everything including our families. And that certainly applies to our extended family.  Grandparents can be a blessing, require some tricky navigation, or be a constant challenge. But more often what I worry about is how our cultural child-centeredness influences how families view grandparents.  The very nature of sin causes all of us to curve in on ourselves. As a result, I wonder if God’s call to honor those who are older, especially grandparents, has fallen on hard times. Are we asking grandparents to honor the grandchildren rather than the other way around? Functionally, who is honoring whom…

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Preventing Destructive Marital Conflict

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Conflict in marriage is a common issue. It is not the sign of an unhealthy marriage. The goal is not to have a conflict-free marriage. The goal is to have healthy conflict. Healthy conflict builds a marriage. Unhealthy or destructive conflict can destroy a marriage. What are some principles that can keep us from destructive conflict? I would suggest the following: 1. Cultivate self-awareness. The rest of these principles will do no good if you are not aware of or if you are constantly excusing what comes out of your mouth. We must start with an ongoing awareness of what…

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How to Be Effective in an Unstructured Day

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I have been a paid pastor or in full time ministry for over 30 years. At the beginning, I remember wrestling with having so much time on my hands and trying to make it effective. Recently, I was asked what principles I follow to be a good steward of my time. These are not exhaustive but a start. Although this doesn’t specifically apply to parenting, I think it may be helpful to you. 1. Try to work a certain number of hours every day. Put yourself on a schedule. If you steal time in the middle of the day pay it back later. Work…

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Quick Thoughts on the 50th Anniversary of Earth Day

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The 50th anniversary of Earth Day was this week. Our children and teens can be influenced by an environmentalism that is based in fear or worship. In honor of this day, I put together some quick thoughts from the Scriptures. What would you add or change? – Chap Quick Thoughts for Earth Day The earth is the Lord’s and everything in it (Psalm 24:1). He created it and established it. Therefore he owns it. It belongs to him. Creation declares God’s glory (Psalm 19:1). A being who can make the heavens and the intricacies of creation is very great. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiN6Ag5-DrU…

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Love Is: A Short Bible Study on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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With families in confined quarters, love is even more important. This devotional, from Parenting with Patience, can be helpful for parents or other family members. Love is… Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. 1. Read verse 4. Write out the five characteristics of love.  Then write out the opposite.  Love is…                                           The Opposite is…. ———————————-|———————————————– a. b. c. d. e. 2. Read verse 5. What are four more characteristics of love? Again, write out the opposite. Love is…                                            The Opposite is…. ———————————-|———————————————– a. b. c. d. 3. Pray though the qualities in the left columns. Circle the ones that stick out to…

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12 Principles for Media Use in the Family

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Any study on the media is going to be outdated as soon as it released. But one study found that teens are consuming NINE hours of media a day, not including texting, school and homework. Another study put it at eleven hours because teens were multitasking; More than 70% of households said they had TVs in the bedrooms and 66% reported a TV on during the meals. Not surprisingly, only about half of parents had rules for media use. As anyone who knows a teen or tween can attest, media is among the most powerful forces in young people’s lives…

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Interview with Dave Harvey, Part 1: Help for Those Who Love a Prodigal

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Prodigal. What comes to mind when you hear that word? For some it may be Jesus’s beloved story of the father and the two sons. But for others, that word may be a son or daughter, husband or wife who has turned their back on the faith. If you are an intentional follower of Jesus Christ, nothing can cause more pain than a child or spouse who suddenly turns their back on the Lord. Perhaps they become secretive and withdrawn. Then their sin comes out. Now there is public rebellion and repudiation. That brings alls sorts of emotions – shame,…

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Is Something Missing in Our Gospel-Parenting?

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I have noticed a good but misguided desire among many young Christians parents. They seek to be intentional in the way they raise their children. Many have an excellent desire to be more gospel-focused. They want to treat their children the way that God is treating them – with grace. So they draw a direct line from this grace and want to parent with grace. Unfortunately, using just this paradigm for parenting flattens the gospel. When we look at the whole of Scripture we see that God adopted Israel as his son and called him out of Egypt. The Scripture tells…

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