Why Do We Let Them Dress Like That: Women of a liberated generation wrestle with their eager-to-grow-up-daughters – and their own pasts.
Interesting to see non-Christians wrestling with the way they are letting their daughters dress. Even more interesting to peek over the shoulder of non-Christian women who are willing to verbalize the regret for their sexually promiscuous past.The writer is wrestling with her own advice and her past. Why does her generation of women let their girls dress so provocatively.
I have a different theory. It has to do with how conflicted my own generation of women is about our own past, when many of us behaved in ways that we now regret. A woman I know, with two mature daughters, said, “If I could do it again, I wouldn’t even have slept with my own husband before marriage. Sex is the most powerful thing there is, and our generation, what did we know?”
We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who didn’t have to worry about getting knocked up. … So here we are, the feminist and postfeminist and postpill generation. We somehow survived our own teen and college years (except for those who didn’t), and now, with the exception of some Mormons, evangelicals and Orthodox Jews, scads of us don’t know how to teach our own sons and daughters not to give away their bodies so readily. We’re embarrassed, and we don’t want to be, God forbid, hypocrites.
Still, in my own circle of girlfriends, the desire to push back is strong. I don’t know one of them who doesn’t have feelings of lingering discomfort regarding her own sexual past. And not one woman I’ve ever asked about the subject has said that she wishes she’d “experimented” more.
The Christian life is not only right but good, abundant (John 10:10), blessed (Psalm 1:1). As a parent, I want to help teach and remind my children of the goodness of God’s ways. In fact, as we seek to pass the baton of the faith this is one question our children are asking. “Is this Christian way the good way?”
This article might be helpful to show our older daughters the built in wisdom of God. And explain why we ask our own daughters to dress differently than the world.