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As a side benefit of my conference ministry, I am privileged to meet a number of godly young pastors. Some have the role of family pastor and some are senior pastors with a heart for family discipleship. The very reason they have me in to speak is because they want to equip the parents in their church to pass the gospel to the next generation. 
 
They also know the church is important in this calling. And so they will launch initiatives to encourage and help parents. But too often those initiatives have less success than they wanted. What seemed like a good plan on paper did not actually lead to the results they hoped. And they become discouraged.
 
If that is you, let me mention four things you are probably not seeing that will make all the difference in the world. 
 
1. Your home is your focus group. 
What do I mean by that? Your home is the first place you live out the gospel. Your home is the first place you seek to develop convictions of family discipleship. Your home is where you think about how different initiatives can or cannot work. Your home and testimony will encourage and affect others. 
 
What this means is that you are the chief family discipler in your church. Your family should be one people can emulate. For example, you are learning the challenge of having devotions with a family that includes a one-year-old. You are learning principles of authority and affection as you interact with your eight-year-old. You are learning how often it is reasonable to have a family reading schedule. You developed a 31-day Easter reading plan for your church? Really? Did you and your family follow it? If you didn’t, then how do you expect others to?
 
As a leader trying to equip others, you want to challenge your parents with something most can do. Rather than having them feel like a failure, you want to give a realistic challenge. To do that you need to know it can be done. And that means your start by learning on your own family.
 
2. Your leadership team or your discipleship group is your second focus group.
Not only is your family a test lab, but so is your team. That team could be your elder team, your family discipleship team, or your discipleship group. Ask for more feedback. Since all leaders are to be managing their household well (1 Tim 3:4,12), then your leadership team should be able to give you thoughts about the success or roadblocks of a particular initiative. They should be willing to implement it in their home.
 
3. Evaluate afterwards to build on your successes or learn from your “failures.”
I made plenty of mistakes when I was senior pastor of my church. People were very forgiving. But I wanted to only make the same mistake once. I wanted to learn from those things that did not go well. Too many church leaders just move on to the next initiative without taking time to really learn the lessons they need to.
 
4. Develop convictions; don’t just run programs.
The reason you are evaluating is because you want to have a fruitful ministry. To have a fruitful ministry a leader needs to be learning and developing convictions. You are not just an activities director at a social club! God has called you to pastor others. But that means you need to continue to grow as well. Your family ministry will look different than that in another church. You may be able to glean ideas from other churches but then you need to transfer them into your context. Does the church see your progress in the faith (1 Tim 4:15)?

Brother pastor, keep going in both your own ministry to your family and in equipping others. But do it more wisely this year than you did last year. That is a mark of maturity.