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What Causes Fights and Quarrels [in My Marriage]?

By Christian Living, Marriage

Every marriage relationship experiences conflict. Sometimes it can be healthy conflict. Many times it can be destructive conflict. I have already written about preventing destructive conflict here. James 4:1-2 is well-known but often not thought of when it comes to the marriage relationship. This verse can provide some special help in understanding your last conflict and moving towards a more positive discussion next time. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You…

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Preventing Destructive Marital Conflict

By Marriage

Conflict in marriage is a common issue. It is not the sign of an unhealthy marriage. The goal is not to have a conflict-free marriage. The goal is to have healthy conflict. Healthy conflict builds a marriage. Unhealthy or destructive conflict can destroy a marriage. What are some principles that can keep us from destructive conflict? I would suggest the following: 1. Cultivate self-awareness. The rest of these principles will do no good if you are not aware of or if you are constantly excusing what comes out of your mouth. We must start with an ongoing awareness of what…

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